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Gifts: The name of this love language is as it suggests—you feel loved when you are gifted things. Receiving gifts isn’t shallow. A gift is a visual symbol of love. Someone whose primary love language is receiving gifts, isn’t necessarily focused on the object they receive, but rather what the gift represents. The receiver recognizes and values the gift-giving process which includes careful reflection and the deliberate choosing of the object to represent the relationship.
For people who respond to gift- giving, the key to communicating your love effectively is giving something that is both physical and meaningful and that reflects their values, not necessarily yours.
Physical Touch: People with this as their love language, feel loved when they receive physical signs of affection, including kissing, holding hands, cuddling, and sex. Physical intimacy can serve as a powerful emotional connector, breeding a sense of unity or oneness between partners as well as feelings of warmth and comfort. Some people only feel affection deeply, when they are held, kissed or touched.
Quality Time: This is for people who evaluate love based on how much time you spend with them. These types of people value active listening, eye contact and their partner being fully present. They want undivided attention that comes through meaningful conversation and recreational activities done together, without being interrupted by screens, TV, phone calls etc.
Acts of Service: This is specific to people who believe that actions speak louder than words and prefer
" Taking the time to understand your love language and that of your partner’s, screams 'I love you and I want our relationship to work' without you having to say it. This action, speaks louder than words, and reaffirms your intent and commitment "
to be shown how much they’re cared for. People who value acts of service appreciate when their partner goes out of their way to make life easier.
Knowing your love language, and that of your partner isn’t enough. You have to regularly put it into practice, which may take some getting used to, especially if you’re set in a routine or have been together for a considerable length of time. However, despite the saying ‘you can’t teach an old dog new tricks’, in this case you can. All you have to do is be a bit more attentive and intentional. Take things easy, and start with small adjustments that you can keep up. Your partner will take note of the small changes you’ve made, and will definitely appreciate your conscious effort.
Taking the time to understand
your love language and that of your partner’s, screams “I love
you and I want our relationship to work” without you having to say
it. This action, speaks louder than words, and reaffirms your intent and commitment. It states clearly where you stand and will ultimately positively increase their sense of security. What person doesn’t want to feel safe in their relationship?
Understanding how you receive and express love, and being able to understand how your partner interprets love, will help you successfully evaluate and navigate your love life.
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